I met one on Friday night who liked me because I was being myself, she loved Hi Dave, I just received your "bars & clubs" DVD package and I thought even the first half hour was insightful. As far as promoters go , I met one (which seems to be a one off thing) who was promoting a contest to see who could come up with the best techno mix on their Ipod , the winner was in the draw to win $100 , I seem to appeal to him because I was being friendly & chatty. As far as building relationships with the doorman, etc goes I feel that I have to repair a tarnished reputation, well some of them I think are intimidated by me because I'm a fairly big guy and they don't want to have to deal with me if I do get drunk (which I don't), this city is the place to go if you want to get SOME action , they have become very strict with the serving of alchohol to curb drunkeness & violence , a guy left after they started serving him water (after 2 beers), but I did behave recklessly last year even when I was straight. My approach to women was all wrong (I was grabbing them around the waist) , it worked sometimes, but it would freak a majority of women out and they'd complain to the security guards , that's something I've been trying to live down. I think I have actually got a fairly high level of self confidence but my self esteem hasn't been congruent with that and I've been working on that, well since I've been watching the "approaching women" DVD's and listening to the "interviews with dating gurus" CD's then going out and applying some of the techniques the way I view myself has changed , it's mainly due to the fact women (particularly the barmaids) view me in a different light, like I met one on Friday night who liked me because I was being myself, she loved the fact I said "thank you" to her. When she served me the next night, her eyeballs nearly popped out of their sockets, so I didn't go back to her till later on that night and she responded in a friendly way, she actually started playing a little game with me when I handed her the money for a beer, she was playing another game with me the night before too, I think it was because I conveyed my personality in front of her when talking to this guy. What I'm finding is when I'm neutral and I am using "no style" , women are VERY responsive to that, what I've also learnt on the bars & clubs DVD's is that I'm not alone when it comes to bar game and becomimg more "self aware" of how & why I feel the way I do after being away from the bar scene for months ,that different distractions were causing my anxiety (NOT WOMEN), I'm starting to get the DJ's & one of the band members look at me (they have a very high status in the club),what I've also noticed is I've been getting the thumbs up from the bartenders and the weekend before I got a wink from one of the barmaids. I think it was because I conveyed some of my personality in front of her too, by giving a guy a handshake whereas I was acting all cold & disinterested before I got back into things. I think personality can make it or break it with a woman, I've read in an E-book that a good looking guy with no personality to a woman is just like a fat & ugly woman is to a guy, so I think these women find me to be an attractive guy because of my personality. I put it down to using some of Tyler & Seans methods. I better get going or I'll be here all night. Regards Russell, Australia   Just use your first name and valid email as your password - then click the “Free Instant Access!” button to enter (Use the same password when returning. All information kept 100% confidential). Allow the next page a few seconds to load.   First Name: E-Mail: We take your privacy very seriously. You can read our entire privacy policy here. ©2001-2009 David DeAngelo Marketing Inc, DDMI All Rights Reserved. "Double Your Dating" and "David DeAngelo" are trademarks used by David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. By entering, you agree to terms and conditions found here. By entering your email address you are also requesting and agreeing to subscribe to our free Dating Tips email newsletter. You must be 18 or older to enter. And you can look at all of our different dating advice programs here. Or read dating advice, or customer emails.